It is okay to feel disappointed and let down – I certainly did, says Alison (Picture: GETTY)
Dear Alison,
I’m hoping you can help me. I got married a week ago, but I really didn’t enjoy the day at all.
I spent a year planning everything so carefully but on the day I felt like things kept going wrong; my dress felt too tight and I just couldn’t get into the ‘party’ spirit because I was worrying so much about what my guests were thinking.
All my friends talk about their wedding day as the ‘best day of their lives’ and when my husband proposed, I was so excited to have my own big day. I don’t want to be the ‘odd one out’ and I don’t want to admit the truth because all my friends and family are so happy for me.
My husband saved up and we spent a lot of money on the day, which now feels like a waste, but I don’t want to talk to my husband in case he thinks I regret getting married or I come across as ungrateful.
I wish I could go back in time and do the whole day differently, but I know that’s impossible. How do I get over this?
Thanks,
Simone
Do you have a wedding problem you need some advice on?
Weddings are joyful occasions – but they’re also incredibly stressful. Whether you’re a bride or groom, best woman or man, family member or friend of the couple, the run up to the big day can be very tense.
If you need a bit of help with your quandary, Alison, who has run a venue for 10 years and helps couples plan weddings, is here to offer a helping hand.
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Dear Simone
Firstly, let me congratulate you on your recent marriage.
Then, let me emphasise that you are not alone in feeling this way.
There are such high expectations set for a wedding day, and the pressure to make everything perfect can lead to many brides experiencing a mix of emotions, including stress, anxiety and trying to please everyone – which, in turn, can overshadow the joy of the occasion.
I should know – I felt the same way as you after my own wedding day.
My chief bridesmaid struggled to do up the back of my dress correctly, and I never felt it fitted properly throughout the whole event. The flowers in my bouquet started to flop over mid-way through, and a colleague touched my dress and covered it with blood.
Life is never perfect; sometimes, things do not go according to plan.
It is OK to feel disappointed and let down – I certainly did. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without guilt. Acknowledging them is the first step towards processing and moving on.
I tried not to dwell on the things that went wrong for me, Alison explains (Picture: AKP Branding)
If you find it challenging to move beyond these feelings, speaking to a close family member or friend may help.
I’d also suggest you talk to your husband and share your feelings gently …read more
Source:: Metro
