Women feel ashamed to share their sexual desires with their partners, in fear they will be judged (Picture: Metro)
When it comes to sex, there are often secret kinks or fantasies we’d love to explore but are yet to try.
This is the case for almost all women, with 90% of us harbouring a hidden sexual desire.
Sex-positive dating app Pure recently asked 3,000 women about the fantasy they wished they could explore, and the answers certainly weren’t vanilla.
In fact, the desire most ladies were interested in was an orgy. About 35% of women said orgies, foursomes and threesomes were something they wished they could get involved in.
Sexologist and sex expert Gigi Engle, for sextoys.co.uk, tells Metro about the intricacies of orgies and why women may want to partake.
‘An orgy is group sex where everyone is having sex with each other in the same room, whether that’s in threes and fours or a bunch of couples,’ she says.
This is different to a gang bang, where one person is receiving and everyone else is penetrating or giving.
Orgies are one of the oldest sex acts in the book, with Gigi noting that they’ve ‘been around basically since the dawn of humanity.’
She adds: ‘The most popular orgies from history are probably Bacchanalia, which is a feast to celebrate the god of wine Dionysus in Greece, and the spring harvest in Ancient Rome and Greece.’
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Women don’t share their desire for an orgy out of fear of being judged by their partner (Picture: Getty Images)
But what makes group sex so appealing to women?
‘You can explore voyeurism and exhibitionism which are huge kink, because you can watch and be watched by others, in an orgy situation,’ explains Gigi.
‘It’s pure hedonism to be engaging in this activity, tapping in to your lustful, animalistic side. They’re taboo, societally it’s a wild thing to have an orgy. It can be really exciting.’
The only things to be wary of are getting proper consent and STIs. Gigi advises all participants share their STI status beforehand, uses barrier methods like condoms or dental damns, and switches to new ones between sex acts to ensure they remain effective.
When navigating consent, she says: ‘Any good reputable sex party will have “guardians” who are sober caretakers, making sure people are following the rules and you can go to them if anything sketchy happens.’
From the world of orgies, following not too far behind is rough sex, which 32% of women who responded to the survey said they were keen to experiment with, alongside power and control play.
This can often include Consensual Non-Consent (CNC) too, when partners actively engage in …read more
Source:: Metro
