Dylan is in a loving relationship with his girlfriend (Picture: Getty)
Welcome to How I Do It, the series in which we give you a seven-day sneak peek into the sex life of a stranger.
This week we hear from Dylan* a queer 27-year-old working in the charity sector, who has a complicated relationship with sex.
He has a condition called phimosis, which is where the foreskin of the penis is too tight.
‘This means things can get painful if the skin gets stretched – like when I get an erection, for instance,’ Dylan explains.
In spite of this, he still has sex about three times a week on average with his girlfriend Pippa*.
‘My condition caused a lot of psychological distress in my teens,’ he explains.
‘The culture of silence around men’s bodies and vulnerabilities meant that I thought I was the only man in the world with this condition.’
When Dylan and Pippa first got together, it took them around three months to have penetrative sex because he found it so painful.
‘It had also been too long since I’d last f**ked and I was too terrified,’ he says.
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‘I have much better sex now I now know what works and what doesn’t, and I have a loving, trusting, understanding partner. It makes a huge difference, but the memories of past events still haunt me from time to time.’
Without further ado, here’s how Dylan got on this week…
The following sex diary is, as you might imagine, not safe for work.
Monday
There are some weeks when Pippa and I don’t have any sex, and there are some weeks when we can’t keep our hands off each other. This week, thankfully, is the latter.
We’re feeling very loving and very horny – and thankfully we get to act on it with relative ease. But for most of my life I didn’t think this would be possible.
I’ve discovered that lots of guys I know have phimosis: a very close friend of mine, my girlfriend’s ex, someone I used to work with. Far from being a one-in-a-million abnormality, it seems to be startlingly common.
But, I remember as an anxious fourteen year old, slowly realising that something was wrong with me and searching the internet in the middle of the night for answers.
On the Wikipedia page for phimosis, the only people I could see who had it were Louis XVI of France (though this has been discredited) and Charles Guiteau, the man who in 1881 assassinated US President James Garfield in what at the time was speculated as ‘phimosis-induced insanity’. Reading this at 2am on a school night, I counted myself as another historical …read more
Source:: Metro
