When she got engaged a year later, I kept expecting that she’d pull me aside and ask me to be in her bridal party too (Picture: Getty)
Wedding planner and venue owner Alison Rios McCrone helps solve your dilemmas, no matter how big or small, in a weekly agony aunt column.
Hi Alison,
I have been friends with my bestie since we were in high school. Ever since then, we’ve both talked and dreamed about our weddings – including the fact that we’d be each other’s bridesmaids.
So when I got married in 2021, she was thrilled to be asked to be my maid of honour. We had such a gorgeous day together – surrounded by all of our mutual friends and my family.
But when she got engaged a year later, I kept expecting that she’d pull me aside and ask me to be in her bridal party too. But it never came.
I was shocked to then see that she decided to elope in Cape Town while she was on holiday last year. She had no friends or family there and her reasoning was that she just wanted it to be her and her new husband.
Of course, I was happy for them. And I even said so at the big party they threw when they were back.
But I felt a pang of disappointment that I wasn’t involved in her big day – just like she was with mine. Am I being unreasonable?
Best wishes, Amy
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Dear Amy,
Friendships create strong bonds, and when someone you care about chooses a different path from the one you dreamed of together when you were at school, it can feel deflating.
It is an unfulfilled expectation, and your best friend would never have intended it to feel that way for you, so it is essential not to take it personally.
You and your bestie have a bond built on many years of shared dreams and experiences, including her being your maid of honour at your wedding.
What you both envisioned at high school was many years ago, and dreams can change as time passes.
I planned my ideal wedding when I was younger, but the reality many years later was very different.
One of the main things that changed was my mum and her friend had been bridesmaids at each other’s wedding, and I grew up with the daughter of my mum’s friend. We went to the same school and spent a lot of time together.
I was …read more
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