Jamie Valentino found he couldn’t hook up with someone his younger brother’s age (Picture: Jamie Valentino)
As Evan* leaned in to kiss me again, my nerves made me state the obvious reason that we could never work.
‘Dude, you’re 20!’ I blurted out.
Granted, this wasn’t exactly a flaw he had control over – but it was one I couldn’t see past.
‘I turn 21 in a few weeks!’ he replied, as if that was a countdown to maturity and somehow made things better. ‘Besides, you don’t look much older than me,’ he added.
God bless him, I thought, knowing full well that my Botox, 7,000-step skincare routine, and countless green juices likely were working overtime to cover up the almost 10 years between us.
By all accounts, Evan was a man: muscular, assertive, undeniably horny and he didn’t seem to care if I returned his compliments – though perhaps that’s because he was more interested in getting me to stroke something other than his ego.
And yet, when I looked at him, all I could think about was the imbalance of power and the responsibility I felt over him. I realised then that I’d wildly overestimated my ability to overlook his youth.
‘You’re a kid!’ I said after he revealed his age (Picture: Jamie Valentino)
When Evan first messaged me, his profile didn’t show his age (Grindr lets you be as anonymous as you wish).
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He appeared young though, he sent his nudes before I even knew his name. But after we exchanged a few messages, I asked him for an answer, it turns out, I didn’t want to hear.
‘You’re a kid!’ I said after he revealed his age.
‘What?’ he replied. ‘I really am 20! I can show you my ID.’
If anything, this reply only cemented his youth.
In a way, it was cute that he thought I didn’t believe him rather than realising my discomfort with our age gap. But ultimately that’s what it felt like for me: uncomfortable.
Putting the other immediate issues I had – like him living with his mum and, worst of all, being closeted – to one side, already I was grappling with viewing him as a liability rather than just a lover.
In the past, I’ve typically been the younger one in my sexual conquests (Picture: Jamie Valentino)
I had visions of his mum knocking at my door like a frantic Karen, threatening to sue me for showing her son the ride of his life.
Maybe I was giving myself too much credit, but my concerns weren’t unfounded, even if they were hypocritical.
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Source:: Metro