Kelley refers to herself as a ‘side’ (Picture: Getty/Kelley Nele)
Welcome to How I Do It, the series in which we give you a seven-day sneak peek into the sex life of a stranger.
This week we hear from Kelley Nele, a 27-year-old relationship and sex educator, living in South Africa.
She’s a single, transgender woman, and despite not being in a couple, she still has partnered sex twice a week on average.
‘I’m both comfortable in my skin and comfortable sharing my body with whomever I please,’ Kelley says.
Kelley says she’s all about ‘outercourse’. She prefers to focus on the pleasure that comes from foreplay and dry humping, referring to herself as a ‘side’ rather than a top or bottom.
But while Kelley loves her body now, this wasn’t always the case. ‘My earliest memory of feeling out of place was when I was five years old. I didn’t realise I was trans until I discovered the term when I was 15,’ she says.
Kelley began transitioning at 19. ‘I started off braiding my hair and getting extensions, and introducing the world to the new me little by little,’ she says.
‘After a while I started going to university in feminine clothing, then friend’s parties, and then events with over 50 people.
‘At first, I felt deeply self-conscious. Suddenly, I was turning heads no matter where I went.’
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But Kelley says her coming out journey has been ‘mostly positive’.
‘My family and friends accept me, most men hardly flinch when I tell them I’m trans.
‘Since I’ve come out I experience joy more often. I find it easier to be myself, be forthcoming about my gender identity and in turn have more intimacy in all of my relationships.
‘Where I was once more guarded and ashamed, I am now more expressive and liberated—both emotionally and sexually.’
Without further ado, here’s how Kelley got on this week…
The following sex diary is, as you might imagine, not safe for work.
Monday
I shut my computer and sigh in relief. My chores and work for the day are done; I can do whatever I please. I could catch up on the latest episodes of Highbreak High, play video games, or workout. But, right now, I’m in the mood for something a little more… sensual.
I follow my standard routine; shut the blinds, close the door, collapse onto my bed, and scroll through my spank-bank.
For some reason the content on my phone just isn’t doing it for me. I’m excited but not as excited as I could be. I try harder to immerse myself in the content, but to no avail.
I exit my hidden photos, throw my …read more
Source:: Metro
