We didn’t want any photos on social media (Picture: GETTY)
Wedding venue owner Alison Rios McCrone helps solve your dilemmas, no matter how big or small, in a weekly agony aunt column.
Hi Alison,
My wedding was a few weeks ago and everything went brilliantly – the guests had a ball, my now husband and I danced until we could barely stand, and all our meticulous planning ensured the big day went without a hitch.
But there’s one thing that’s still leaving a sour taste in my mouth – the actions of my new sister-in-law, my husband’s sister.
You see, during the reception dinner, I was surprised to get a text from a friend who couldn’t make it saying how wonderful I looked.
I couldn’t work it out as we’d made very clear to guests that we didn’t want any photos on social media until our night guests arrived. We’d mentioned it on our invites, we’d put signs up at the venue, and our celebrant even mentioned it during the ceremony.
It turns out that, before our ceremony had even finished, my new sister-in-law had posted dozens of pictures online, tagging me in them and ensuring lots of people, including our night guests, saw me before I wanted them to.
When I confronted her the next day, she said that she assumed the rules didn’t apply to family, and she openly laughed, asking why I was so bothered.
I feel like she didn’t understand why I was so upset, and I want to speak to her again to really make clear that what she did was wrong, but my new husband says a line has been drawn and he thinks it’s confrontational to continue the argument.
What should I do?
Karina
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Dear Karina,
Firstly, congratulations on your wedding!
Weddings can be such a whirlwind of emotions, and it is natural to want everything to go the way you had planned for the day.
So, it is completely understandable that you are feeling upset and disappointed by your sister-in-laws actions regarding her social media posting.
Your efforts to maintain a certain level of privacy until your night guests arrived were clearly communicated, and it is disheartening that she didn’t honour that.
At our venue, we often see a bride and groom request that no photographs be taken during the ceremony or for no photographs to be posted on social media until after the bride and groom have posted.
Despite what anyone thinks about this, it’s important to honour the bride and groom’s request on their special day.
Your wedding day is an incredibly special and …read more
Source:: Metro
