Cross-dressing is completely normal but for Lindsay it’s affecting her relationship dynamic (Picture: Getty Images)
Lindsay has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for 10 years, but the guilt is getting to her. She isn’t attracted to his cross-dressing.
‘He has been into feminine expression off and on since about four years ago,’ she said.
‘He started with small things like wearing eye shadow sometimes or lip colour. I was not super into this at first, but I accepted it because he was exploring new things and it was only occasional and a short-lived phase.’
Lindsay, 30, has always been attracted to stereotypically masculine men, who she believes don’t have any typically feminine traits.
Two years ago her partner, 37, admitted to her that he tries on her skirts and tights when she’s not home.
‘To be honest the thought of this really weirded me out and I didn’t understand it, but I didn’t say anything because I liked that he felt comfortable telling me, and I didn’t ever see him in it,’ she explained.
Lindsay’s partner began cross-dressing about four years ago (Picture: Getty Images/500px Prime)
Lindsay is trying her best to be ‘progressive’ and ‘accepting’ of her partner, but recently his cross-dressing has become more prominent in their relationship.
‘He bought a bunch of women’s clothing online. I’m trying my best to be supportive and was telling him what he looked best in,’ she said.
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‘I figured this would be for home play and he could try stuff on for fun but this weekend, he wore a dress and a full face of makeup out with me for a day.
‘It turns me off majorly and I don’t know what to do.’
Lindsay admitted to her boyfriend that, while she loves him and wants him to express himself as he chooses, she doesn’t find cross-dressing attractive.
He didn’t take it well and thought he was being called ‘ugly’ and felt it was wrong for Lindsay to share her feelings.
‘He thinks his cross dressing in public has nothing to do with me because “I’m just there standing next to him”, even though I feel like it absolutely involves me,’ she added on Reddit.
‘I’m at a loss and now I feel incredibly guilty for what I said and wondering if I’m a bad girlfriend or human being. It’s not something I want to end an otherwise very solid 10 year relationship over, but I’m confused.’
For Dr Sarah Bishop, a clinical psychologist with more than 20 years experience in the field of relationships, Lindsay’s feelings are definitely valid.
She tells Metro.co.uk: ‘It’s so important to remind ourselves that it’s completely normal for individuals to have preferences and attractions that are unique …read more
Source:: Metro
