Make sure you know what your partner wants to hear (Picture: Getty Images/Westend61)
When we’re focused on doing the deed, finding the right words to enhance the experience isn’t always easy.
Will you come across too strong? Or worse, give your partner the ick?
Sex educator and sex toy shop owner, AJ Papadatos, recently came to the rescue of his ‘gentlemen’ followers on TikTok with some suggestions.
His phrases included ‘You’re taking it so well,’ ‘that feels good doesn’t it,’ and ‘you’re mine’, while a firm favourite in the comments was: ‘I know baby, I know.’
One commenter said: ‘Omg all these. If someone said “I know baby, I know” I would be undone.’
Another user agreed, saying: ‘I would actually explode.’
@ajmissionarypaps
I got flustered recording this #fyp
♬ original sound – AJ PAPS
These phrases seem to be targeted for those who have a ‘princess complex’ also known as a ‘praise kink’.
People with this preference enjoy letting their partner take control. Outside the bedroom, it can look like your significant other taking your shoes off for you, opening the car door and even buckling you in. While between the sheets, it can become a BDSM style relationship – where the ‘princess’ can take on a number of roles, such as a ‘brat’ or ‘submissive’. And, when used in a way that both parties consent to, it can make for great sex.
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AJ’s last suggestions tap into this specifically, offering up phrases such as ‘princess’ or saying ‘how’s that feel princess’
However, these kind of male-dominant versions of dirty talk aren’t going to be everyone’s cup of tea. And, while AJ says it’s important to ‘find out and communicate with your girl to see if she’s got a degrading kink or a praise kink,’ not every woman fits into either/or.
Dr Melissa Cook, relationships expert and psychologist, tells Metro.co.uk that if you want to incorporate dirty talk in the bedroom, you might want to have a chat with your partner before hand.
‘The best way to approach this subject with a partner is to be open-minded and let your partner share their thoughts and preferences without feeling pressured,’ she says.
‘You could start by saying something like: “I’ve been thinking about ways we can spice things up. How do you feel about incorporating some playful or sexy talk during our intimate time?”‘
She adds that you can ask specifically what words or phrases your partner is turned on by or what turns them off – this way you don’t kill the mood or …read more
Source:: Metro
