DEAR HARRIETTE: For the past few years, I have been getting together for dinner with a few other women with whom I used to work.
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When the first woman left for a new job, another woman started a text group so we could all stay in touch. That same woman organizes a dinner a few times per year. That is basically the only communication among the group. None of us work together anymore, and I have been away from that company for a couple of years.
Over the last year or two, it has become clear that the original organizer is the only one who is interested in continuing these get-togethers. We basically never communicate unless she is setting up dinner.
I recently went through a stressful life event. In the middle of that, one of these dinner invites came out. I responded to the group with a brief explanation of what was going on and said I would not be available for a couple of months while I worked through this.
The fact that nobody reached out to check on me confirmed that it was time for me to move on from this group, but how do I do that?
If I remove myself from the text group, everyone gets a notification that I’ve left. I have nothing against these women, it’s just clear to me that this chapter is over.
I’m tempted to just stop following the chat, but that seems rude. Can you recommend how I can step away from this situation?
— Ready To Move On
DEAR READY TO MOVE ON: If you are ready to close this chapter of your life and you want to do it graciously, you can send a note to the group chat thanking them for being a source of comfort over the years and adding that you are now moving on. Wish them the best of luck in their lives, and leave the chat. If anyone wants to be in touch with you, they should be able to reach you.
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Source:: The Mercury News – Entertainment
