DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend and I applied for the same out-of-state job, and only I got it. Should I go?
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“Danny” and I have been dating for three years. One of his closest friends invited us to apply for a job where he was interning, as they still needed three more people. The job pays well with lots of benefits.
Before we applied, Danny and I discussed that if only one of us got in, we would still seize the opportunity. When I got the call, he was supportive, although I could feel his sadness as we had always talked about finally getting a place together if we both got in.
All of Danny’s past relationships ended because he is not a long-distance person. Do you think this is worth the risk?
— Long Distance
DEAR LONG DISTANCE: Take the job.
Encourage your boyfriend to apply for something else in the town where you will be going. You have to live your life. If he wants to be with you, he needs to take action to make it happen.
You do not need to break up with him. You two can try to see if you can make it work, but ultimately, your circumstances will likely determine your future.
DEAR HARRIETTE: My best friend always seems to need to be the center of attention.
Her behavior is starting to cause a strain on our friendship, and I’m not sure how to address it without hurting her feelings.
She is 25 years old, but her actions remind me more of a teenager who craves constant validation.
Whenever we go out in a group or even in more intimate settings, she finds ways to turn the conversation back to herself, often interrupting others or downplaying their experiences. It feels like every story I share is quickly overshadowed by one of her more dramatic tales. If someone else is getting attention, she tends to make exaggerated comments or perform antics to redirect the focus back to her.
This behavior is not only irritating, it’s also exhausting, and it feels like I’m constantly playing a supporting role in her ongoing quest for attention.
I value our friendship and care about her deeply, but this aspect of …read more
Source:: The Mercury News – Entertainment
