DEAR HARRIETTE: I am in love with a boy who has been courting me for a long time, but we come from different religions.
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In my faith, it’s important for my partner to join our church, and he initially agreed to attend with me. However, I’ve realized that his main reason for going is to be with me, not out of genuine interest in my beliefs.
Now I feel torn because I love him deeply, but I don’t want him to convert just for my sake. I want him to believe in my faith for his own reasons, not as a condition of our relationship.
Letting him go feels painful, but I also worry about the spiritual differences that could cause problems in the future.
Should I choose him and hope things work out, or is it better to let him go?
— Faith Conflict
DEAR FAITH CONFLICT: You seem to be getting what you asked for. You love this person, and he loves you enough to join your faith.
Obviously, it will take time for him to become fully immersed in your spiritual world. If you want to be with him, welcome him and have patience.
Will he ever be as ensconced as you? Who knows. But you can’t ask more of him than what he’s doing. He is making the effort to be in alignment with your values. Be grateful for that, and help him to find his comfort zone.
Also, be ready to accept that he may never be as involved as you. That may be just fine.
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Source:: The Mercury News – Entertainment
