DEAR ABBY: My stepdaughter has an 11-year-old daughter I’ll call “Kristina.” She is very well-behaved, but she’s being taught at home that love is measured in dollars.
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She is constantly hinting about gifts and candy she wants.
It has gotten so bad that when she’s staying with me, I postpone errands because she invariably finds something in every store that she needs or wants. I don’t mind buying her things from time to time, but the items I purchase are sometimes returned to the store or sold by her mother.
If I buy a gift for another grandchild, I have to hide it because Kristina thinks it’s hers. If she sees money on my dresser, she talks about how much cash others have given her. She helps herself to our candy dish without asking permission and sometimes muses about how many gifts dead relatives would have given to her if they were still alive.
Then there’s her birthday. After Christmas each year, she starts hinting that her birthday is coming up. Abby, she was born in July! For six months, almost without exception, she brings up her birthday in every conversation until she’s sure I have bought her a gift.
I have tried a variety of responses, but she’s not getting the hint.
Don’t even suggest that I talk with her parents about it, because they spend money they don’t have to buy her gifts and then struggle to pay bills. They also don’t seem to appreciate what we do for them and don’t always thank us.
Any other suggestions you could give me would be appreciated.
— TIRED OF THE MANIPULATION
DEAR TIRED: Talk to Kristina’s parents again. This time, tell them exactly what you have told me — that her main topic of conversation is what she wants you to give her on the next gift-giving occasion — because it seems obsessive.
Tell them you have gotten the impression that their daughter seems to regard you as less of a loving grandparent than a toy vending machine, and it is unsubtle and obnoxious.
Then, if they don’t pass along the message — which would allow Kristina …read more
Source:: The Mercury News – Entertainment
