DEAR ABBY: Do you think it’s unreasonable to ask an acquaintance/neighbor to send a quick text before dropping by?
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This neighbor lives within the same development I do. She is friendly enough, and we occasionally walk our dogs together, but she has a habit of coming by unannounced.
I was out one afternoon and noticed later while viewing my security camera that she had come by and brought with her another woman and the woman’s dog.
I texted her and let her know that I saw that she had stopped by, and, in the future, I’d prefer she texted me before stopping over. Now she is offended and says she will “never stop over again.”
I saw her walk by my house recently and came out to speak to her. When I tried to talk to her, she held up her hand and said, “Don’t even speak to me!”
I think this is childish and drama-filled. What do you think?
— GROWN-UP IN OHIO
DEAR GROWN-UP: I agree with you. The woman overreacted to your text.
This is one of the reasons I believe talking on the phone or face-to-face is a better way to communicate because there’s less chance of someone misconstruing a terse message and taking offense.
As to her directive that you should not speak to her, take her up on it. Dropping in on someone with no warning is inconsiderate, bordering on rude.
DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 17 years to a good man with many great attributes. However, our relationship lacks connection.
Every effort at emotional connection is initiated by me (like planning date nights or going out for a walk to have a conversation). I have told him many times I need him to make an effort to initiate. He always agrees, but never follows through.
I have now stopped planning date nights and told him that we won’t be going on a date unless he schedules and plans it. (I do not require anything elaborate — a walk or a simple coffee would suffice.) That was two months ago, and he has made zero …read more
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