DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been together 20 years, married for 12.
Related Articles
Advice |
Dear Abby: The conversation we had when my tenant was drinking could become a problem
Advice |
Dear Abby: Now that I’m the bride, I need to have an awkward talk with my friend
Advice |
Dear Abby: The teens’ father won’t do anything about their swimwear
Advice |
Dear Abby: My manager complains that I don’t like him, and I need this job
Advice |
Dear Abby: She was my bridesmaid but she let me down, and it still hurts
We have weathered ex-spouses, step-parenting, nine military deployments between us, serious health issues and everyday normal life.
My husband is an infinitely better person than I am, and I have always tried to care for him. We are in our early 40s and recently retired.
This year, our children will be out of the house, and we have bought a beautiful home in a dream location for the two of us to start our next adventure together.
I love my husband, but over the last few years, almost everything he says makes me extremely angry or annoyed. I have never felt like this before in our relationship, and I don’t know why this is happening now.
No one else makes me feel this way. I don’t know where to start on addressing the problem.
I have told my husband a little bit, and he says he feels like I no longer love him or need him.
But, Abby, I do everything for him. I manage all our bills and finances. I cook three meals a day. I clean the house, the yard and the cars. I do everything he asks for if he needs help or assistance.
I try to always be there if he needs to talk or vent. I stay in shape and available for him.
I don’t know what else to do to make him feel loved and to make my anger go away. Please help.
— MYSTIFIED IN NORTH CAROLINA
DEAR MYSTIFIED: I’m not sure your husband is “an infinitely better person” than you are. I wish you had mentioned one thing that he does to make you feel loved and needed, because from where I sit, you have been shouldering the entire load.
Your anger and resentment may stem from your awakening to this fact.
Those feelings may dissipate if you discuss them with a marriage and family therapist, preferably in the presence of your husband.
DEAR ABBY: I am 49. I grew up in a toxic, abusive …read more
Source:: The Mercury News – Entertainment
