DEAR ABBY: Seventeen years ago, I had a mental breakdown. For the first three years afterward, my husband stood by me. Now we haven’t had sex in 14 years.
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The medications I was prescribed caused me to gain more than 100 pounds. I have tried diets, to no avail. I suggested to him that maybe we could hold each other and see where it led us. His reply was, “I’m no longer attracted to you. You knew when we married that I wasn’t attracted to larger (fat) women.”
Since then, I no longer respect or value him. He has his room, and I have mine on the other side of the house. We do absolutely nothing together.
When he comes to my bedroom, he doesn’t knock. When I need to go through his room, I always knock. He said, “This is my house, too, and I don’t knock.”
I can’t stand his arrogant ways. I still have to pretend we are married, but I don’t feel it. He calls me “baby.” I have expressed that I have no interest in pretending and have asked him to stop calling me that.
I’m on a fixed income. All of my retirement money is invested in this home and property. I pay all the bills.
I’m lonely for male companionship. I don’t know how much longer I can live this way, even though he didn’t leave when I really needed him. Please advise.
— NUMB IN ALABAMA
DEAR NUMB: It has been 17 years since you were prescribed the medications you have been taking, and there may have been improvements made in the intervening years.
Contact the doctor who prescribed them and ask whether there is something newer that would allow you to lose some of the weight you haven’t been able to lose. It may help if you explain what those meds have done to the state of your marriage.
If adjusting your medication is not possible, you will have to decide how important male companionship is to you, because you may have to find it elsewhere.
Consult an attorney …read more
Source:: The Mercury News – Entertainment
