Dear Readers: To mark my final week writing this column, I’m rerunning some of my most memorable questions and answers.
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Dear Amy: I am an average-attractive single woman who lives in a big city.
I am frequently approached by men of other races who flirt with me and try to get my phone number.
How do I tell them I am not interested, without offending them?
I stick to my own kind.
– No Thanks
Dear No Thanks: It is fairly easy to say, “No, thank you.”
But if you truly want to repel these interested men, you could tell them the truth: “No offense, but I’m a racist.”
They should leave you alone after that.
(April 2020)
Below is a thoughtful update from a reader whose question was first published in 2019. Her update follows the original Q&A.
Dear Amy: About five years ago, I completed a Ph.D. under the guidance of an amazing woman, “Daisy.” She had a truly transformational impact on my life and I owe her a huge debt.
We formed a close bond and she introduced me to her husband and daughter on several occasions. After graduation, we’ve seen each other on a roughly annual basis.
Normally when I have a free day or am passing by her campus, I’ll ask her for a coffee or lunch. I think about her often.
Here is my quandary: I have recently found out that six months ago her daughter was in a freak accident and is now paralyzed from the waist down. The story made the national press, but I only found out it was Daisy’s daughter through an unconnected, professional contact.
I desperately want to reach out to Daisy and her daughter but am unsure how to do so.
Do I mention the accident, or do I simply reach out to ask her for a coffee and see if she brings it up? I don’t want to be insensitive but also want to be there for my friend in this time of need.
– Lost in London
Dear Lost: You should definitely reach out, and …read more
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