Like Grohl, my partner, Tom*, had fathered a child with another woman (Picture: Karwai Tang/WireImage)
It’s the news no woman wants to hear – that their partner has been unfaithful.
As I read the news this week that Foo Fighters star Dave Grohl had fathered a child outside his marriage, it sent shivers down my spine.
Only a few years ago, I was the woman that was cheated on; a thing that only came to light because, like Grohl, my partner, Tom*, had fathered a child with another woman.
Tom, and I had been together for four years and had always enjoyed each other’s company. We loved the same music and we both loved partying. As two people with fairly serious day jobs, we looked forward to the weekend when we could dance the night away with our friends.
During our time together, there had been ups and downs, mostly around our ideas about life goals, but we had worked through it all and arrived at a place where we were both happy and deeply in love.
Everyone who knew us commented that we were perfect. We’d always arrive hand-in-hand and go home in each other’s arms. Infidelity was not on my radar. Even as we weathered each storm, I never once wanted or desired anyone else.
So, when he proposed, out of the blue, I was not surprised. We’d discussed marriage often.
Although the timing was not as we had planned, I accepted.
Jordyn Blum and Dave Grohl in 2018 (Picture: Jesse Grant/Getty Images)
‘How lucky I am,’ I thought as I looked at him.
I was not to know that my triumph would be fleeting. That he had planned to shatter it.
‘Do you know what you mean to me? Everything. But I need to tell you something,’ Tom said minutes after he popped the question.
Even with all the sense in the world, I could not have guessed what he was about to say.
‘I’ve made a mistake. A big one,’ he continued.
‘Gosh, what is it?’ I asked without the slightest suspicion that he had been unfaithful.
‘When we had our rough patch, I started seeing someone.’
I felt dizzy and stared at him in disbelief. My heart began to race and I felt cold.
‘Is it over?’ I asked with all the strength I could muster.
‘That’s not the worst of it. She says she’s pregnant,’ he added. The words landed on me like a meteor hitting the earth. It felt like the end of everything: Dreams, plans and all the love I had so freely given to him above all others.
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For the next few days I cried hysterically and he never left my side. He held me when I broke down, stroked my head when I fell asleep and made me food even though I couldn’t eat.
Neither of us made it to work for an entire week. We talked until we ran out of words.
She was 12 weeks pregnant. He had seen her …read more
Source:: Metro
