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Woman says she can’t get a date because she’s on benefits


Woman says she can't get a date because she's on benefits

Lynn McDermott says ‘it should be about what the person is like on the inside, not a disability’ (Picture: SWNS)

A disabled women says she has been made to feel ‘undateable’ because she is on benefits.

Lynn McDermott, 48, claims she has even been called a ‘parasite’ by potential suitors when they find out she doesn’t work.

The single mum, from Southampton, says she gets the payments legitimately, but that does not stop men she talks to on sites like Plenty of Fish and eHarmony either blanking her or turning nasty.

She said: ‘One guy told me I was a parasite. He said, “You can walk and talk, why can’t you work?”

‘I’m not financially able to take people out, but most of the men are divorcees who seem to think I’m after their money.

‘I’m not looking for any kind of handout in any way, I’m looking for love and that’s all I want. I just want to be loved and to love someone else.’

Lynn, whose children are grown up and have left home, was diagnosed with endocarditis and underwent a valve replacement on Boxing Day in 2017.

She then spent six months in a coma, from December 2017 to June 2018, before having to go back into hospital a month later due to immunology problems.

After recovering from her ordeal, Lynn was then diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and was found to be immunocompromised – meaning her body was unable to fight off infections and diseases.

Lynn McDermott says men refuse to date her because she’s on benefits (Picture: Lynn McDermott / SWNS)

Due to her health conditions, Lynn receives Universal Credit, PIP (Personal Independence Payment) and ESA (Employment and Support Allowance) – totalling approximately £21,000 per year.

She said: ‘My disability is that I’ve got heart failure but you’d never know it to look at me.

‘I’m put down as disabled and unable to work because of my disability – but no one would know this because I don’t have a leg chopped off or anything and I just carry on with my life.

‘I had a PIP assessment and the paperwork with me with the issues I have – the heart failure and everything will not get better.

‘If [men] ask me what I’ve done in my life they realised I’ve had a vast career, I’m driven and I think let’s see what I can do.

Lynn claims she has even been called a ‘parasite’ by potential suitors after they find out she doesn’t work (Picture: Lynn McDermott / SWNS)

‘I’d like to question why people on benefits are not fit to be on dating sites – these sites ask you how much you earn and what your job is, so I say approximately £21,000 is what I get in a year.

‘I get loads of replies. I last went on Plenty of Fish six weeks ago and had 354 replies from people – they obviously like the look but they just don’t appreciate that I’m disabled and …read more

Source:: Metro

      

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