Relationship coach reveals how to get over an ex in 30 days

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The coach says that love is a ‘drug’ (Picture: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

It takes 66 days to form a new habit, but apparently it only takes 30 days to get over an ex.

According to relationship coach Sabrina Bendory it’s possible to get over an ex by undertaking ‘love rehab’, which involves committing to no contact with them for 30 days.

The 37-year-old, from Long Island, New York, explains that 30 days of no contact gives people the time and space to evaluate exactly what they want – one way or the other.

It prevents rash decisions and allows people to reflect on themselves rather than putting their all into getting their former partner back, or moving on from the relationship entirely.

She says that people should distance themselves from their ex for 30 days (Picture: Sabrina Bendory/ SWNS)

During this zero contact time, Sabrina says people should ‘take inventory’ to see if their ex is worth getting back with. This could involve making a list of their must-have qualities and your relationship deal-breakers.

Taking time away from love, which Sabrina calls a ‘drug’, allows people to find themselves again and take a step back from any unhealthy, obsessive habits and emotional distress that the relationship may have caused.

Sabrina’s advice comes from her own personal experiences. She admits to spending years obsessing over her ex-boyfriend, Eric Charles, 40, after they broke up in 2006.

As Sabrina puts it, this ‘unhealthy obsession’ led her to get back in touch with Eric two years later, in 2008, to make him jealous.

However, rather than becoming romantic partners, they decided to become business partners.

She is now married to a different ex, Alon Bendory (Picture: Sabrina Bendory/ SWNS)

Eric suggested that Sabrina should start writing about her experiences and give advice to others, and the pair – who remain friends- started a platform together called ‘A New Mode’ for people to offer advice on different dating problems.

Sabrina, who is also an author, said: ‘I was sick of being at the mercy of men and feeling disempowered. I contacted Eric and tried to make him jealous by talking about all the guys who were after me, but it didn’t have the intended effect.

‘Instead, he suggested I write about it and share my knowledge with others. Then we launched our platform in February 2009.

After spending some time ‘working on herself’ and a summer ‘following her own rules’, Sabrina reunited with another ex – her high school sweetheart, 38-year-old Alon Bendory.

They married in September 2015 and now have three kids together, aged two, four and six.

Sabrina’s no-contact detox means you shouldn’t contact or check up on your ex for at least 30 days – in order for you to learn how to fulfil yourself independently.

For some people, it may take longer than 30 days to get over an ex, and if this is the case, Sabrina says they should only get back in touch when they no longer feel devastated at the prospect …read more

Source:: Metro


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