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People always ask me the secret to great sex and my answer surprises them


Almara Abgarian lying on a bed at home

Almara often gets asked for sex tips from friends and strangers (Picture: Rachel Adams 2023)

Looking up at him, I smile with a glint in my eyes.

I’ve just given him an orgasm; his body has gone limp from ecstasy and he is struggling to regain his composure.

We’d been shagging for hours and the culmination has left him breathless.

I love this moment during sex. Knowing I’ve done the ‘job’ well fills me with a silly kind of pride.

As someone who’s had an eventful sex life (translation: has slept with a lot of people), I often get asked for tips from friends and strangers alike.

Some ask for practical advice, others want to discuss the best way to tackle emotional concerns. 

While they all phrase it differently, most people just want to know the same thing: what is the secret to really great sex?

Sorry, but there isn’t one – not really. What matters is how keen and enthusiastic you are about the sex you’re having.

When I was in my twenties, I was dating a man who was a few years older.

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Our sex life was incredible from the word go, and it set the tone for the rest of our relationship (much to the chagrin of my poor housemates).

Despite our connection in the sack, I sometimes worried that I wasn’t experienced enough for him.

At the time, I’d slept with more people than the average woman, but nowhere near his total. 

He was also very charismatic and dominant, both in and out of the bedroom, which was exciting but also sexually intimidating. 

But one night, my ex told me something that shifted my mindset. 

Almara has realised how much enthusiasm in the bedroom really matters (Picture: Rachel Adams 2023)

While cuddling in bed together, he told me how much he enjoyed my enthusiasm.

Intrigued, I asked my lover to elaborate and he explained that some previous sexual partners had made him feel like sex was a chore.

My eagerness to give and receive pleasure, and my zest for our sex life, was what turned him on the most.

He didn’t need to question if what he was doing was good for me, because my unspoken response was answer enough.

Most lovers have told me how refreshing it is to see me have as much fun as I do

And, in the years since, I’ve noticed just how much enthusiasm really matters during sex – oral, penetrative or otherwise. 

Some partners are so surprised by how expressive I am in bed that they’ve asked if I am faking it. 

One ex outright refused to believe that I enjoyed sleeping with him as much as I did – so much so that it nearly caused …read more

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