My date thought I was a necrophiliac after I said I was narcoleptic

Dayna McAlpine

‘So do you still fancy dead people or…?’

When it comes to getting the inevitable sneaky ‘You up?’ text or DM slide from someone who’s ghosted you in the past, I think I can safely say this isn’t what most people expect.

We’ve all been there. A date has gone — in our eyes — really well and you spend the next few days sitting eagerly waiting for that text asking to meet up again, because, duh, you’re the most wonderful company they’ve ever experienced.

But that text never arrives — and the coming weeks are spent wondering what the hell you did wrong. Did I have something stuck in my teeth? Was my hilarious story actually just unhinged trauma sharing? What if I barked instead of saying hello?

However, I don’t think: ‘Oh maybe he thinks I shag dead people’ is a conclusion many of us would jump to.

Let me set the scene.

I was in my early twenties, had broken up with the person I thought was the love of my life and had begrudgingly decided to go on a date with (let’s call him) Lee, who’d convinced our mutual friend to set us up.

Despite being prone to bad decisions following my recent heartbreak, the date was a lot of fun. It turned out we had a lot in common: similar interests and shared ambitions.

He asked me loads of questions about myself, made me ache with laughter and offered to pay for dinner. When he went to the toilet, I texted my pal: ‘Here, he’s an actual babe, I definitely want to see him again’.

Suddenly, the whole atmosphere of the date changed. Lee stared back at me weirdly and changed the subject

Lee and I carried on chatting over drinks and, loosened up by the booze, I told him that I might have narcolepsy – a long-term brain condition that can cause people to fall asleep suddenly, something I’d recently started doing, much to the worry of those closest to me.

Suddenly, the whole atmosphere of the date changed. Lee stared back at me weirdly and changed the subject to what he was up to that weekend with ‘the lads’, which hurt my feelings as I didn’t think I’d massively overshared by telling him something about my health.

I’d recently told my family and friends about the possibility of me having narcolepsy and I’d been overwhelmed by how supportive everyone was as I tried to pursue a solid diagnosis. I took Lee’s reaction as a bit of a red flag but, lacking self-confidence at the time, I told myself that I needed to keep schtum about things like that.

The date ended soon after and he made a quick exit. I didn’t hear back from him when I sent a ‘I had a lot of fun tonight, we should do it again!’ text. I was gutted and used my disappointment to remind myself why I wasn’t actively dating.

Slowly, I …read more

Source:: Metro


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