Alexis has no plans to start having sex again (Picture: Jam Press/@hiblaek)
This year, Alexis Turner celebrated seven years of celibacy, after swearing off sex at the age of 25.
Now 32, her decision to boycott all dating, sex and masturbation has had a ‘profound’ impact on her life.
The only way she’ll break this celibacy pact she’s made with herself is if she meets her future husband, and she says that, so far, her sex-ban hasn’t had any downsides.
‘Celibacy has allowed me to explore my beliefs and values more thoroughly,’ the freelance graphic and web designer from Alabama, USA said.
‘It’s been a way to avoid the potential pitfalls and emotional turbulence that can come with intimate relationships.
‘By maintaining this path, I’ve found a unique perspective on what I truly need and want from my connections with others.
Alexis in 2020, after adopting her celibate lifestyle (Picture: Jam Press/@hiblaek)
‘Currently, I have no plans to break my celibacy pact unless I find myself in a committed relationship that leads to marriage.’
Despite it being her personal choice, Alexis has received a lot of judgement and backlash online, with some branding her decision to be celibate ‘unnatural’ and questioning if she has something ‘wrong’ with her.
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This reaction has, on occasion, planted a seed of doubt in the designer’s mind but ultimately, she’s happy she’s stuck with her decision.
She said: ‘I’ve heard comments like, “You must be missing out on a lot”, which can feel dismissive.
‘Sometimes, I get asked “Is something wrong with you?” which makes me feel like my celibacy is seen as a problem or something that needs fixing.
‘Hearing people say that celibacy is unnatural can be hurtful, as it suggests my choice is somehow wrong or out of the ordinary.’
Is hook-up culture over?
Earlier this year, a mass rejection of hook-up culture seemed to be trending on TikTok, Instagram and, well, just about everywhere.
Celibacy became hot and made headlines after Bumble received backlash for it’s series of promotional billboards which poked fun at the lifestyle choice.
The dating app’s ads read: ‘You know full well a vow of celibacy is not the answer,’ while another said: ‘Thou shall not give up dating and become a nun.’
Our favourite Uncut Gems star Julia Fox even weighed in, saying: ‘2.5 years of celibacy and never been better tbh.’
Julia Fox shared how she has been celibate for more than two-and-a-half years (Picture: Mike Coppola/Getty Images)
Bumble did issue an apology on TikTok, stating: ‘Our ads referencing celibacy were an attempt to lean into a community frustrated by modern dating, and instead of bringing joy and humour, we unintentionally did the opposite.’
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Source:: Metro
