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I sent men their own rude messages on dating apps


A phone with a heart coming out of it to signify a dating app, surrounded by messages from Tinder and other dating apps that were rude or sexual

Men’s reactions after being sent their own rude messages on dating apps (Picture: Metro)

‘Would love to eat your peach’. ‘Mm I can tell you would be a demon in the sheets.’ ‘How would you describe your libido?’. These were the messages I got from straight men during my first five minutes back on Tinder after a two-year hiatus. Was I surprised? Absolutely not.

There aren’t many options when you receive unwanted innuendo or misogynistic one-liners. You can reply, of course, ignore it, block the sender, or report them to the dating app.

But Metro had one more idea up our sleeve: flip the script and send these men the same kind of messages women get in their DMs every day.

As part of our newfound approach, we applied some strict rules of engagement: don’t send degrading or offensive messages. No messages of a sexual nature. And only reply to men who’d sent a questionable message first, or had something derogatory about women in their Tinder bio.

So, after spending two nights exchanging messages on the app, how did my new technique go down?

A conversation Metro’s sex and relationships writer Alice Giddings had on Tinder

Alice (pictured) set out to talk to men on dating apps the way they messaged her

Chad

My first encounter was with a man called Chad*. He was the guy who sent me the ‘demon in the sheets’ opener, so I replied with a one-liner a friend of mine had received a few months back.

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‘I don’t like promiscuous men, sorry,’ I wrote.

I’m not sure what I expected him to say next, but what he did, certainly made me feel uncomfortable.

‘Men can’t really be promiscuous though,’ Chad insisted, to which I replied: ‘I think you need to Google the meaning of promiscuous…’

Clearly not getting the message, he continued: ‘You can’t take everything Google says lol. Last time I checked only women are the ones that can be promiscuous, not men. We are not designed for that.’

I quickly told him this wasn’t the case, which, of course, didn’t go down well.

‘Either way you wouldn’t be with a guy that’s not experienced, so you saying you don’t want a guy that’s promiscuous is just dumb,’ Chad snapped.

‘Us men, we don’t want our girls to be promiscuous, we value that s**t, you guys don’t.

‘The only reason you think I’m incorrect is simply because you’re delusional. I’m not the type of guy that sits there and lies so I can have some p***y.’

Such an agitated response gave me the perfect opportunity to ask that classic question women hear all the time: ‘Why are you getting so emotional?’

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