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19 signs that you’re a narcissist and don’t even know it


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Narcissism is a distinct personality disorder, which according to Psychology Today, is characterized by “grandiosity, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration.”

The traits that make narcissists so difficult to hang out with or date — like a willingness to control people and a ruthlessness in getting their needs met — also happen to make them effective at rising up the ranks. Narcissists only make up about 1% of the population, but when you think of the hundreds of people you know, chances are there are may be a few narcissists mixed in. 

To help you figure out if you, your family member, or perhaps your boss is a narcissist, we combed through the psychology literature looking for patterns of narcissistic behavior. We also spoke with Joseph Burgo, PhD, a psychologist and the author of “The Narcissist You Know.”

Here are 19 common signs of narcissism, and how to identify them.

This is an update of an article originally written by Vivian Giang, with additional contributions by Drake Baer. 

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1. You’re a bad sport

Burgo says some narcissists are bullies — and one of their most troublesome traits is their tendency to be a sore loser and a sore winner.

For example, when they lose in a sports match, narcissistic people might try to humiliate the referee. When they win, they might gloat excessively or act abusively to the losing party.

2. You constantly feel under appreciated

The kind of people that Burgo calls “grandiose” narcissists always hold a grievance against the world.

Those with narcissistic behavior will typically feel entitled to something better and think they’re not getting the recognition they deserve from others.

3. If you’re not grandiose, then you’re introverted, hypersensitive, defensive, and anxious

Psychologists talk about the “two faces of narcissism.” On one end there’s the hyper-aggressive, super-loud type. But there’s a softer form of narcissism, too. It’s called “covert narcissism,” which is denoted by introversion, hypersensitivity, defensiveness, and anxiety.

“Both shades of narcissism shared a common core of conceit, arrogance, and the tendency to give in to one’s own needs and disregard others,” Scientific American reports.

4. You think everyone else is stupid

Many narcissists are know-it-alls, and have a hard time getting along with coworkers and friends because they refuse to believe they could possibly be wrong about anything.

Burgo has observed that these narcissists walk around with a marked sense of superiority to others and have a “my way or the highway” approach to decision-making.

 

5. You really like to swear at people

Psychologists Nicholas Holtzman and Michael Strube from Washington University in St. Louis found in a study that subjects who scored higher in narcissism are argumentative and curse more than their modest counterparts.

They also tend to use more sexually explicit language.

6. You are self-righteous

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Source:: Business Insider

      

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