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Everyone has the potential to be interesting — and boring.
Common qualities of extremely boring individuals include poor improv and storytelling skills.
Boring people also tend to lack original opinions.
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Absolutely everyone has the capacity to be interesting.
But it comes more naturally to some people than to others. If you’re worried about becoming a human soporific, we’re here to help.
Below, we’ve listed 16 classic traits of boring people, culled from a Quora thread titled, “What makes a person boring?”
Read on for the social behaviors to avoid at all costs and you’ll be on your way to life-of-the-party status.
Mike Nudelman and Drake Baer contributed to earlier versions of this article.
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Boring people have unbalanced conversations.
Instead of finding a rhythm between talking and listening, boring people are on either conversational extreme.
Quora user Jack Bennett calls it an “asymmetry in the conversational ‘give and take’ — e.g. all listening and no talking, or all talking and no listening.”
Boring people can’t tell if others are engaged in the conversation.
If you’re emphatically boring, you’re probably missing the other person’s body language.
Garrick Saito argues that what makes a person boring is the “continual blathering and ignoring of signals and body language that say (perhaps not loudly enough) ‘I’m not interested in what you’re saying, but am nodding every few seconds only to be polite.'”
Lucky you — we’ve rounded up a bunch of tricks for reading nonverbal cues.
Boring people can’t make others laugh.
Humor shows “cognitive flexibility”: the ability to assess an idea or an event from a variety of perspectives, and then, naturally, make light of it. Boring people lack it.
“I’m an easy sell,” admits Will Wister. “I mean, come on let’s face it — it’s not that hard.”
Bonus: If you can make people laugh, you’ll probably have an easier time picking up a date.
Boring people never have anything to say in conversations.
A “boor” is somebody who’s loud and insensitive to the social situation, but a boring person can also be overly circumspect.
Alexa Knowles writes: “Where the loud bore believes they are the most interesting person there is, the quiet bore believes it’s best to never say anything because who would want to listen to them? These are the ones that reply to every inquiry with some variant of ‘I dunno, sort of, I guess.'”
Boring people always do the same thing.
Andy Warwick, who has since deleted his profile, complains of friends who go to the pub every weekend and then subsequently get frustrated when he can’t make it out to join them — since he was going to museums, reading books, or hiking around hills.
“For me what makes a person boring is living a sedentary life without variety,” Warwick says. “Diverse experiences improve one’s conversation for those weekends when you do go down the pub. You actually have something to …read more
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