DEAR HARRIETTE: My father passed away a few years ago, and we just got around to packing up the rest of his belongings because my mother decided to sell her house.
While we were going through the things in his office, we found a box with letters in it that turned out to be from another woman. It turns out he had an affair for an extended period of time, as detailed in this pack of letters.
My mother immediately took the letters away and has refused to talk about it, but she seemed visibly upset.
Should we press her on this? I am curious about this new discovery, and I wish I could actually read the letters, but she has them now. Should my siblings and I query her on this situation, and would it be wrong for me to ask if I can read them?
DEAR TROUBLING DISCOVERY: Your father’s affair is none of your business. You should not ask to read the letters. You should not press her about this at all.
If she wants to talk about it, she will open up to you. For now, leave it alone.
Harriette Cole: I overheard what he asked my teenage daughter
Harriette Cole: Why won’t they invite me to their online parties?
Harriette Cole: I walked in on my daughter and saw sex on her screen
Harriette Cole: The women all turn off their video. Is that OK?
Harriette Cole: Should I take the funeral home’s advice about my grandma?
DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been staying at home for weeks, only venturing out occasionally to go to the grocery store, although I have mostly organized that for delivery. Now that things are loosening up, I’m still concerned about how much I should go outside. I have a couple of medical conditions, and I am very worried that if I catch this disease, I won’t survive.
I haven’t told anyone in my neighborhood or my job that I have these health challenges. I don’t want people to look at me with pity. I manage my life just fine, thank you. But I don’t know how well I will do if I put myself out in the general population.
One neighbor keeps asking me to take a walk with her. She has been great about walking a few miles every day. I, on the other hand, have sat around for weeks, and my body is not happy about that. I do need to get more exercise. I’m just not sure what to do. How should I handle this?
Weighing the Odds
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Source:: The Mercury News – Lifestyle