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Ask Amy: The clothes she buys my daughter make me a little sick


DEAR AMY: Christmas is approaching and I know from experience what that will look like for my 18-month-old daughter and my mother-in-law: So many clothes. And toys. An avalanche of stuff.

Columnist Amy Dickinson (Bill Hogan/Chicago Tribune)

I love my mother-in law and appreciate her pampering her only grandbaby, but I have this issue: I am a dedicated tree hugger, and the textile industry is catastrophically destructive for the planet.

I shop 100 percent secondhand, except for the obviously necessary exceptions, all of which I source from companies with transparent methodologies and third-party accountability.

The deluge of unethically produced items honestly makes me a little sick, especially when it’s not just bad for the planet but, you know, ugly/tacky/cheaply made and unlikely to hold up to a toddler’s wear and tear. Plus: My mother lied to me about my birth.

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Is there any way I can communicate this that’s unlikely to cause a problem?

My MIL is steadfastly conservative and believes that climate change is a hoax.

Reluctant Clothes Horse

DEAR RELUCTANT: I hope your partner is on board with this, because you two should be a united front in dealing with your mother-in-law.

You might approach this by assuming she is going to have a problem with it — and her problem is something you’re going to have to tolerate so you can get through this together.

No, I don’t think you should preach to her about climate change and third-party accountability, partly because it makes you seem snobbish and insufferable.

Tell her, “We are being really strict about the things we bring into the house. We’d like you to cut down your giving to two pieces of clothing and two small toys. Can you help us with that?”

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