DEAR AMY: I am struggling in these uncertain times. I am finding people are showing their true colors with how they are responding to “stay at home” orders and how the government is trying to reduce the risk associated with the novel coronavirus.
Columnist Amy Dickinson (Bill Hogan/Chicago Tribune)
Unfortunately, political ideals are also being exacerbated because of this. People who I thought were good people are now deliberately ignoring orders, traveling across state lines, having gatherings of more than 10 people, dismissing hygiene practices, and posting polarizing things on social media.
I have started to block and hide these people from social media and other virtual interactions to escape the negativity.
Clearly, I have no intent to control these people’s views and actions, but how can I cope with this better?
Ask Amy: I want out of our California bubble, but my wife says no
Ask Amy: My younger wife resents my common-sense rules
Ask Amy: My neighbor’s invitation was nuts, but of course I can’t say that
Ask Amy: I won’t be intimate if she won’t wear a mask
Ask Amy: I forgot all about this anguished letter. My parents didn’t.
It feels as if I am losing all faith in people that I once considered to be close friends.
Trying to Do Right
DEAR TRYING: Now is the time to adopt the axiom “you be you” with a vengeance. In this regard, you should continue to disengage on social media. That means disengaging from people you disagree with, but also avoiding the bubble of anxiety that can come from connecting with people who are enraged and afraid.
Drop back. Read a good novel. You be you.
DEAR AMY: I moved to a new city about a year ago. I’ve made one really great friend here, but there’s a hitch: our incongruous approaches to timeliness.
“Sam” has been, without fail, late to everything we’ve ever planned. His tardiness ranges from one to three hours. Sometimes, I wait an hour and politely ask, “What’s your ETA?” and he replies with, “Sorry, I’m just going to do 15 things and I’ll be on my way!”
Recently, he and I were studying at his place and I got hungry, so I said, “I’m going to go to the grocery store next door, I’ll be back in five.”
I would have been back in five, except he wanted to join me. First, he had to change his contact lenses and fix his hair, and then he started telling me this story about his mom that I didn’t pay much attention to because I was annoyed. About 10 more things and 25 minutes later, we finally left his place.
At the store, he …read more
Source:: The Mercury News – Lifestyle