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Harriette Cole: After 3 years of silence, she sent me this text


DEAR HARRIETTE: Three years ago, I had a falling-out with a woman who, at the time, had been my best friend for eight years.

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Our friendship was one of those rare, deep connections that felt more like family than just friends. We went to the same college, were in each other’s weddings and spent so much time together that we’d see each other at least once a week without fail, even after we both got married and our lives became busier.

Out of nowhere, we had an argument over something so trivial that I can’t even remember what it was about. At the time, it felt significant enough to cause a major rift between us. We both said things in the heat of the moment, and before I knew it, we stopped talking altogether.

What had once been a solid friendship became an empty void, and neither of us made any effort to reach out and fix it.

It’s been three long years since we last spoke, but this week, she sent me a text asking if I wanted to get coffee. Part of me misses her and wants to rekindle our friendship, but another part of me is hesitant.

Should I take her up on her offer and try to repair the friendship, or is it better to leave the past where it is?

— Lost Friend

DEAR LOST FRIEND: You clearly miss your friend. If you can’t even remember what happened to create the chasm, why not reconnect?

Things often seem important in the moment but wane over time. Go to see her. Listen to what she has to say.

Rather than trying to figure out why you stopped being friends, look to see if there is real hope for rekindling your relationship. If so, take it slow, and see how things unfold.

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