An enterprising young Berkeley woman is eager to find a husband and achieve her happily-ever-after. But she has no desire to chase roses on “The Bachelor,” or rely on the various online dating apps that she finds “terrible.”
And so Kimber-Lee Alston, 29, has taken things into her own hands by launching a crowdfunding campaign in an effort to find someone who will put a ring on it.
Yes, with tongue planted firmly in cheek, she has initiated this “uplifting and empowering endeavor” and combined it with “A Love Quest” video blog series in which she’ll chronicle her adventurous search for that elusive Mr. Right.
“Finding love in the modern age is hard, especially in the face of the isolation and emotional strife brought about by COVID-19,” Alston writes. “Whether you use Tinder, Bumble, or any of the other apps, you’ve probably been on a zoom date with someone whose personality is as dry as the sand in the Sahara and then you swipe for days without an eligible contender in site. Rinse and repeat.
“That’s why I need your help. I want to find a husband. Healthy, intentional marriages are sacred, a basis for support, and, as a darker-skinned Black woman, especially elusive.”
Is this all a joke? Well, sort of. … But then again, not completely.
Alston, a music video and film director, calls her satirical vlog series “an earnest, yet enthusiastically comedic exploration of boldness and pushing boundaries.”
“Why not ask my community for support in doing the most I possibly can to find the right romantic match?” she writes. “Especially when traditional avenues like online dating apps have proved unfruitful. Especially when Black women have not traditionally been seen in positions of power, ingenue, and luxury along the lines of romance. We should all have equal opportunities to strive for these things in life, to thrive in these spaces.”
When contacted by phone, an enthusiastic, up-for-anything Alston discussed the frustrations of dealing with the scarcity of suitable Black men, and simply wanting to see where her efforts take her.
“It’s humorous, but I’m also trying to maintain some sincerity.” she said of her unconventional approach. “I think humor is a way to explore some truths in a way that is more palatable.”
A sample of that humor can be found in a photo on her crowdfunding page: Alston is seen standing on a sidewalk. Next to her is a stick-figure drawing (wearing a bow tie, of course) with the label “POTENTIAL HUSBAND.”
Has Alston ever even had a close encounter with wedded bliss? Sadly, no.
“I’ve dated people who I’ve liked a lot, but it hasn’t worked out for one reason or another,” she said. “There were commitment and compatibility issues. … I’ve been in love before, but nothing long term.”
The ideal guy? A “kind man who is a good communicator. … A creative person with an appreciation for music and movies. … Someone who wants to have a family and is spiritually compatible.”
Alston majored in theater at Lehigh University and has a brother who writes sketch …read more
Source:: The Mercury News – Entertainment