Dear Abby: Here’s how I ended up paying $80 for a salad and water

DEAR ABBY: I recently celebrated my sixth anniversary of sobriety. I keep having the same issue pop up time and time again, and I’m not sure how to deal with it.

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Dear Abby: I’m not a homewrecker, I just need help

If I’m invited to dinner with a friend or a group, when the bill comes, someone usually suggests splitting it evenly among the people there.

My issue is that my water and my salad come out to an average of $30, including the tip. Meanwhile, other members of the group order several alcoholic beverages, which in Los Angeles aren’t cheap.

The first time it happened, I’d had dinner with a friend and left the restaurant asking myself why my tab was $80.

What’s a polite way of expressing that I would like to pay only my portion of the bill? I don’t want to seem cheap, but fair is fair.


DEAR SOBER AND SMART: I agree that fair is fair. That’s why, the next time you go to a restaurant with friends, you should ask your server in advance for a separate check.

If your companions ask why, explain the obvious — that you are a teetotaler and prefer not to pay for alcoholic beverages you haven’t consumed.

DEAR ABBY: Our wonderful daughter has her doctorate. She’s a hardworking professor, a job she loves.

Her husband, “Phil,” has three master’s degrees and also his doctorate. In their 20 years of marriage, he has not worked a single job. He would say he is a writer, but if I am generous, he has earned perhaps $250 during their marriage.

Phil is rude, disrespectful, stunningly immature, a bully, toxic and passive-aggressive. He drinks too much and goes to the gym three hours a day.

I worked as a psychiatric social worker. My wife of 42 years, who has never said one negative thing about anybody, refers to our son-in-law as “the Grump.”

Their 10-year-old son is a joy and a blessing to be with. Unlike his father, he has a work ethic and is kind and grateful.

I fully understand we don’t control anybody else and often cannot even influence their choices. Over the years, we have spent many …read more

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