Dear Amy: I was with my former partner for several years. He traveled often for work. We had what I thought was a very happy relationship and were both professionally and financially successful.
We bought a home together when I was close to completing my master’s degree.
A week after moving in, I discovered he’d been essentially living a double life with another woman (with children) who lived nearby. They were planning to take a “family trip” together (including her kids and parents). She knew nothing of me.
I then learned that his affairs had been going on for years with various women, and that he’d also had trysts with strangers (men and women). In addition to all this, he possessed tons of “upskirt” photos of various young women who were obviously being photographed surreptitiously.
When I would inquire about his trips and why he wouldn’t answer his phone when he traveled, he would accuse me of being crazy.
After this shocking discovery, I immediately left him.
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After moving out, I ran a background check, and discovered that years ago, he was charged with (but not convicted of) molesting a minor “younger than 12.”
In light of what I now know about him, I am extremely concerned. I don’t know what to do with this information.
Should I reach out to the women whose contact information I have, and prompt them to look him up and do with the information what they will regarding their own children?
I have been wrestling with this question for nearly a year now. I don’t want to behave as a woman scorned, but I do often think about what harm he could be capable of, and it weighs on my conscience that I’ve remained silent.
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Dear Bad Movies: I wouldn’t describe your situation as “a woman scorned” so much as “a woman not warned.” The minute you learned about your guy’s double life, you packed up and left the relationship. Good for you!
Fully examine your motives. If your sole motive is to spare another woman what you went through or …read more
Source:: The Mercury News – Entertainment