Dear Amy: I’m a recently married woman in my mid-20s, looking for a new job.
Recently, during an interview with a private school, I was asked about my pregnancy plans. The question was if I had a “plan for balancing children with work.”
I coldly said, “My husband and I have spoken about it, and we’re not concerned.”
I got offered the job but didn’t take it because of that question, as well as a “no pants” policy for women.
When I told the company that I was declining the job, I told them my reasons, and I included a link to the EEOC about pregnancy discrimination, which included a recommendation to not ask that question in interviews. They responded with a general reply wishing me well in the future.
Was there a better way to handle it?
Dear K: “A no pants” policy? Wouldn’t that upset the children? (I thought that only television anchors could get away with going “no-pants” at work.)
Kidding aside, your choice to turn down this position was obviously a good one. Your follow-up was appropriate.
Here’s the information from the EEOC that I assume you linked to: “Federal law does not prohibit employers from asking you whether you are or intend to become pregnant. However, because such questions may indicate a possible intent to discriminate based on pregnancy, we recommend that employers avoid these types of questions.”
In the future, when you’re asked about your family planning in a job interview, you might respond: “I’m curious: Why do you ask?”
The interviewer would likely offer a benign-sounding explanation. If after that you’re at all still interested in employment at that particular workplace, you could then respond and deflect by saying, “I have an outstanding work ethic.”
Given that this baby-balancing query was made at an actual school, you might have responded: “Given that I’ll be working with children, the entire job is to balance children with work. I look forward to it.”
Dear Amy: It might be my profession that makes me a little salty, but I’m hoping that you can reframe or share some thoughts on this irritation.
When the pandemic started, everyone was sent to work from home. All most people could do was complain about how difficult this was.
Being a nurse and manager of a medical unit, I obviously did not get to work from home. Nor did I have any “boring” days like so many people complained about.
Now, three years later, many people have settled into working from home and love it. They’re complaining about having to go into an office a few times a month.
Ask Amy: After all my work, she gave me $20. Was my reaction out of line?
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Source:: The Mercury News – Entertainment