Dear Amy: Is it rude to yawn while talking to someone if you make an honest effort to hide/stifle it, and apologize or say, “Excuse me?”
I suffer from depression and often don’t sleep well. I also have sinus issues which can make it difficult to breathe.
My boyfriend knows these things, yet he still becomes irate when I yawn during conversations.
He says it is dismissive and rude, even though I use verbal and physical cues to show that I’m still listening.
I don’t think it’s any different than sneezing during a conversation.
What do you think?
Ask Amy: People say I look 30, and I have a young boyfriend, but am I too old for this plan?
Ask Amy: He micromanages our child’s life, and it’s hurting our marriage
Ask Amy: Strangers have started calling me a name I can’t stand
Ask Amy: They asked me to fill in the blanks in our family story, and I’m torn about what to say
Ask Amy: Was I right to say they can’t attend the wedding because it would cause stress?
Dear Tired: I agree with your boyfriend that seeing someone yawn during a conversation is off-putting and seems dismissive and rude in the moment.
However, your boyfriend knows why you do this. He should understand that your yawns are a frequent occurrence and bodily function that you cannot control.
You could probably understand that it might take him some time to adjust to this habit of yours, but he should not become irate or lash out at you when this happens.
Dear Amy: I am a successful woman in my early 30s. I am currently happy in my life.
I have a good job, I have both accomplishments in the past and aspirations for the future, I have a loving husband, I take care of myself and feel cared for in my day-to-day life.
But I also have some demons from the past that try and creep into the scene.
I experienced sexual abuse when I was a young child, had some very rough relationships in my young adult days, and most recently was in a very abusive relationship while I was in graduate school, five years ago.
I have gotten distance from these events, and I’m proud of the person I am today. But at the same time, I experience this incredible cognitive dissonance between these images of myself as a proud, confident, successful woman at the top of her game and this helpless, depressed, insecure woman at rock bottom. I …read more
Source:: The Mercury News – Entertainment